Catching all the "feelings"
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Clean up your language (and your life) by recognizing and implementing these distinctions in your conversations:
1. Emotions vs. State of Being
When we talk about feelings, we’re actually referring to one of two things:
✅ Emotions – The real deal. You’ve got eight core ones (anger, fear, pain, joy, love, passion, shame, guilt). These are your internal GPS.
✅ States of Being – Physical sensations or conditions. I feel hungry. I feel cold. I feel confused. These are not emotions.
2. “I Feel Like…” Is a Trap 🚫
Most people use “I feel like” when they actually mean “I think” or “I believe.” Why? Because it’s a sneaky way to be indirect, avoid accountability, or dodge discomfort.
❌ I feel like you don’t want to do this.
✅ I think you don’t want to do this. Am I right?
See the difference? The first one leaves space for deflection. The second one gets a straight answer. Clear is kind.
3. Thoughts Disguised as Feelings = Emotional Chaos
When you say, I feel stupid, what’s really happening?
👉 You’re blurring the line between a thought and an emotion.
If you said, I think I’m stupid, your brain would probably challenge that thought.
But I feel stupid? That just sits there. Undefined. Unquestioned.
🔑 Solution: Separate the thought from the emotion.
If the thought is I think I’m ugly, check it. Is it true?
If the emotion is shame or pain, address that.
4. Focus on What Actually Matters
Emotions prioritize what matters to you. When you strip away the fluff—states of being, “I feel like” statements, and thought-feelings—you’re left with what actually needs your attention.
So, next time you catch yourself saying I feel like, stop.
Is it a thought? Say it as one.
Is it an emotion? Show it.
No more middle-of-the-road, wishy-washy language. Say what you mean. Be direct. That’s where the real clarity—and freedom—comes from.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
Drop the question number and your answer in the comments below.
Switching from "I feel like..." to "I think" or "I believe" can be tough. Is it easy for you to make the switch?
Does saying "I think" feel more vulnerable?
When you dissect your "feel likes" into a thought and a feeling, do you learn anything new?
Did you realize you were stating false beliefs behind the "feel likes?"
When you catch yourself saying "I feel like..." I want you to stop and write the thought and the emotion within that statement. Now ask yourself "is this thought even true?"
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